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Archive for December, 2008

New Social Network for the Domestically Inclined!

I am drooling over this new website:

Divine Domesticity Social Network

Oh. My. Gosh! I cannot believe this beautiful new social network brought to us by Ali B. of Divine Domesticity!!!! It is gorgeous and fun and I urge you to check it out.

As for her blog, I’ve been meaning to talk about it for a couple of weeks since I found it, but time is always so short. I definitely recommend it too. She posts everyday with lots of recipes. I hope, I hope, I hope, that when I’ve been blogging for 4 years, my stuff will be just as awesome as hers!

Christmas Knitting

Hey! I’ve been knitting!


Find out how my perfectionism interferes with getting my Christmas knitting done in time for gifting at my knitting blog.

On The Gentle Art of Domesticity


Like Glassford Hill Girl, the young author of a pretty blog I’ve just discovered, I’m curious about this new book by Jane Brocket, The Gentle Art of Domesticity. How can I not be in love with Jane Brocket when she has this to say on her personal website:

I’m a late-starter in life; I have never exactly rushed into things like proper jobs, house-buying, marriage, children. And the same applies to my writing. It seems I’ve been storing up all kinds of literary inspiration for years but am only now getting it onto paper….

I am also the creator of yarnstorm. I set up yarnstorm in February 2005 in order to write about knitting. The subject matter soon expanded to include quilting, baking, gardening, colour, inspiration, books, paintings and films (in fact, all the good things in domestic life). I am now blogging at the new jane brocket blog

This is true inspiration to a girl like me who is only now exploring her domestic side (and who is attempting to conquer her undomesticity) at the age of thirty. I often feel like I’m behind everyone else and clueless about these things – hence, my M.O. for this blog! Not only that, but I have latent aspirations of publishing my own writing someday (don’t we all, fellow bloggers?) and it was the creation of my first blog, The Shaggy Dog Story, a knitting blog, which led this new blog, where I spend most of my time musing about all things domestic.

My kindred spirit in the UK!

Has anyone bought or read this book yet? I usually get a Barnes & Noble gift card for Christmas, so perhaps I’ll get it soon and share more about it.

So What If It’s Sexist! Aiko Wants to Do My Housework!


Image of Le Tran with his Android via Feministing.com

Robots who do housework and respond to sexism in the workplace! As long as they don’t replace us wives and women, I say bring it on! Let them do my housework! 

Carly Hart says it best at Associatedcontent.com:

Where’s mine? Women can use a male robot like Aiko.

A woman around the house doing mundane chores is nothing new. Women would much rather prefer a male robot who’ll do the dishes without rolling their eyes or the laundry without much fuss. A male robot such as Aiko could be well received among the single women demographic if he could do basic plumbing, was handy with a hammer and nails and could change the oil in their car. 

Thanks, Carly, for giving the subject a much needed female spin!

But seriously, I discovered Aiko on feministing.com: Fem-Bots, the Perfect Woman? And a for more incendiary article via the same website: Female robot is the perfect companion, receptionist, sexual assault victim

I agree with many of the commenters to the feministing.com articles, as well as the authors, toomey, and Vanessa Valenti, that yes, this is pretty creepy! But not much surprises me these days and I often find myself looking, or trying to look, at various sides before getting in myself all in a huff (unless the offending item is the incessant commercials for Girls Gone Wild, in which case I have been unable to contain many fits of rage).

  • One of the commenters, Bunny,  notes that the original intent of creating this android was as a care-giver for the elderly; thus, it is a noble endeavor gone awry. 
  • Another source mentions that Trung invented Aiko after having a heart attack and though that someday he will need 24 hours assistance. 

After giving some thought to the matter, I’ve concluded that it’s not really the quirky fetishes or sexist views of one dirty old man or socially awkward inventor  that bothers me, it is the supposed views of men en masse as in the orgiginal article from the Sun which I find offensive. I suppose the Sun article reads like Maxim or any other men’s interest magazine, (and to be honest, I dislike reading overly feminist diatribes just as much as these lowbrow men’s magazines), but come on!

SHE is the perfect wife, with the body of a Page 3 pin-up and housekeeping skills that put TV’s Kim and Aggie to shame.

Her name is Aiko, she can even read a map, and will never, ever, nag.

Sounds too good to be true, doesn’t she fellas? And she is.

Aiko is actually a robot, a fantasy brought to life by inventor Le Trung.

And in Trung’s own words: 

“Aiko doesn’t need holidays, food or rest, and will work almost 24 hours a day. She is the perfect woman.”

In the end I find it sad that she is not touted as a tireless aid to the perpetually overworked housewife and working women of the world, but as “the perfect woman.” Maybe it’s not really Le Trans fault, but the slant of the author, Caroline Iggulden (a woman!) who must cater to The Sun’s readership via an expected “humorous tone.” 

Still, must it always be about and for the men of the world?

On Porn for Women….


Have I got your attention? I have to admit, it’s hard to hear this p-word, and the phrase “porn for women” itself, without cringing and wondering what’s coming next, but the answer is so hilarious and true, that I had to post about it.

I gave it some thought: Often less is more when it comes to what women find attractive in the male body: most of us really don’t need to see it all hanging out thank you very much. And as has been proven time and time again, it’s really more about the story, the big picture that puts us in and out of the mood. As in, they sometimes do or say things that just turn us off – no matter how good they look!

And as I thought more, I realized that although I do love to make life easier for my husband as much as I can – because he is the one working the longest hours for our household outside of the home- the truth is (and I wonder what my husband will think when he stumbles upon this post someday ~wink!~) the idea of him doing more around the house really does turn me on!

In the end, I decided that there would be two big advantages to him doing more housework:

  1. I would be in an awesome mood! I’m the type of person that is just plain stressed in too much mess (and stress is my number one mood killer), and yet I’m too dysfunctional to keep things as tidy as I need them to be happy.
  2. I’ll be honest, I would feel thankful and sweet towards him and would want to do something to make it up to him….**

If you are interested in buying this calendar (and no, I don’t work for the CWCP, I just found their product to be amusing – Oh, would that I’d thought of it myself), or Porn for New Moms, or in taking a quiz, or in sending an e-postcard of these gorgeous hunks doing housework, check out The Cambridge Women’s Pornography Cooperative (CWPC) here.

I originally found out about this calendar in an article by Boston Food Culture Examiner, Jacqueline Church, entitled: Holiday gifts: Hunks and Housework is porn for women.

(**Note: If it offends anyone’s feminist tendencies that I would think I owe my husband anything just because he did his share of housework, realize that I love being married and that I believe partnership is all about give-and-take (and to be honest, sometimes take-and-give)- a delicate balance – for both partners.)